Everybody is talking about what they are doing for Valentines Day… were going to this place and were going to watch this… I just don’t get it…
To me, Valentines Day is just another day of the year where someone a long time ago said, this is the one day a year where romance is in the air and all couples should do something nice and all single people should find a date… It is another day, just like Christmas day that has been buggered by someone in an office somewhere who said; let’s make more money of the saps below because we can.
I consider myself a romantic, and I believe, call me naive that all men are romantic at heart, maybe not all of them are in contact with that part of themselves but that’s not the problem here. The problem is that once again our society is scheduling a day out of its busy schedule to tell and show the person your love, that you love them. It should not exist, why should my girlfriend only get flowers or poetry or chocolate from me on one day a year, or why should it have to be that specific day… why do we allow ourselves to be told that we have to do something special for Valentines day… My girlfriend was ill the other day so back on my way from town to home, I bought her some flowers to cheer her up… yet Valentines day demands more from us, right here right now…
An argument put forward the other day by one of my friends was that for some couples it is a day set aside for them to re-light the fire of romance after they have had kids and a mortgage and not had time for romance… I don’t like the excuse of I have no time… everyone has a few minutes of a day to tell someone how they feel or cuddle before bed… Romance should not be tacky, and yet we have allowed the corporations to make it that way. I am waiting for Valentines Day this year in anticipation to see if Facebook takes the next step and provides you free gifts to send to your loved one to let them know, although they are sitting the other side of the room from you, that you love them.
I guess my problem is not so much Valentines day… but the way our society has crippled personal connections, I read one persons comment on the Facebook the other day, which said, ‘I’m leaving Facebook because it is too impersonal, I want to go back to the good old fashioned communication of Text and Email’ after laughing considerably, I realised how sad this was. Letters, hand written letters are old fashioned and personal… maybe even a phone call… but moving from one formatted text to another is no statement and no change…
I’m worried that Valentines Day will become a mandatory point of the year, where we get told, not sure by whom, that we have to be romantic, when just like the good spirit of Christmas, should be something we do all day, every day, all year round. It is not other peoples duty to tell a couple when to be romantic, nor should we have got to the point in our world where we are so busy and rushed we have to mark a day a year in our calendar to be romantic because the rest of the year, we are to caught up in our world of hectic to care for the one we love. Don’t let that happen, if you’re going to do something for Valentines day… make it personal and not commercial… and please don’t forget, it doesn’t have to be, just one day a year.